May 20, 2008 – 12:43 am
there’s this guy i work with, his name is sam. he recently started a blog (that surprisingly enough, i had nothing to do with), and he posted something tonight that took me on a journey. the whole thing is worth a read, but here is just a quick snippet:
what is it that has forced us into a culture where we feel like we must preface everything we say with a “from my perspective” or a “the way i see it” or “its just my opinion”… ? i mean, come on have we really reduced our conversations to this petty way of “clarifying” things?
when i first read this entry, i thought to myself, “yeah… i hate it when people do that.” and it’s true, i do. i hate having to qualify opinions with the fact that they are indeed, my opinion. i feel like the general public should be smart enough to know that the things i say are simply my words, and nobody else’s.
but here’s the kicker. after i spent some time thinking about it, and reread the post again… i realized that i am so incredibly guilty of this. i’m not sure how often i do the whole “in my opinion” qualification thing, but i do something even more dangerous and silly i think. i have a terrible habit of pluralizing everything. for example, if i think you sang something badly, i’ll say “yeah, we think you may need to do this this and this…” i have a hard time making my opinions my own!
i’m so afraid of how people are going to react when i assert myself, that i do everything in my power to make people think i have an army (or at least one) other person who agrees with me, or as if i speak for a common majority. i hide behind an imaginary sense of “i’m not alone in this opinion.”
self-realizations are tough.
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